@matigo It wasn't that cool-looking, but I said it looked flashy in a half-hearted attempt to be nice. š I did wonder where the dog would rideā¦
Had this bizarre dream last night in which @matigo was riding a vehicle that looked like a souped-up delivery tricycle, and he was at some place that looked like a nearly completely deserted Nagoya Airport at dusk. Some traffic police came over to inform him that he was parked in a cross-hatched no-park zone, and he replied that he knew it, that he would be going soon. I complimented @matigo on his vehicle.
The funny thing is that the dream continued, as I introduced @matigo to a local doctor, which he visited, and there were several scantily-clad older guys lying around inside of a wide tatami-floored room, which was actually some kind of sauna intended to treat their maladies. @matigo promptly whipped out his camera at the behest of all. It was a very amusing scene š
@matigo Thanks. Considering that it's been five years since this family member has contacted me despite my best efforts to reach out many times, I'm not sure what would inspire a breakthroughā¦ but I remain dimly optimistic (?) that five more years will not pass before they decide to get back in touch.
@matigo Yes, indeed. Patience is a virtue when communicating with anyoneā¦ but not everyone has patienceā¦ or else, they would just rather not bother to understand, as it does not meet their needs in the moment. With limited time, limited patience and limited understanding, it's easy to see how people just end up giving up in the interim and agree to disagreeā¦ or not to try at all.
There is a specific relationship that has been bothering me for years that matches the above dilemma, one in which it feels like I have been making all the efforts and still I see no effort from the other person. The closer the person is (or should be) to you, the harder it feels to just give up.
@matigo I tend to think that most misunderstandings and relationship problems occur because we can't get the full picture of what the other person is thinking and feeling. There might be cases where we can't morally or ethically or otherwise agree with what the other person said or did, but maybe that doesn't preclude us from at least trying to understand it.
As parents, we hope that our children will be happy with the lifetime decisions that we make. Unfortunately, thatās not often the case, and the decisions we make can lead to lifelong riftsābroad lapses of understanding that threaten to turn the relationships over completely.
At least, thatās been my experience.
@matigo Perhaps part of job-hunting is sifting out the things you don't like, even more than finding the things you do.
@phoneboy That's sad. I'm sorry to hear of your loss. A similar thing happened when my mother passed in the summer of last year. She had a small dog that my sister ended up taking. They have a very shy cat in the house as well, so more dogs are likely not a happy development for the felineā¦
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